If you're anything like me, the idea of reaching success has pretty much been your sole motivation up to this point. Not only reaching it, but the kind of woman you will be when you do so. That's completely natural for a #GirlBoss! But I want you to understand that having a fixed idea of success as your only motivation, leaves you unable to recognize the value of anything extra you might gain along the way. You don't want to get so focused on reaching your end goal that you fail to acknowledge how rewarding and transformative your journey actually is.
Sure, that future version of you is going to be one BAD-ASS woman someday. But that doesn't mean that you're not successful at this point in your life. Hellooo! Every step closer to your goal is a win. Every win equals a success. As long as you keep moving forward, you have something to celebrate. We all need to get in the habit of thinking like this! Have you ever noticed how quick we are to feel bad about a small mistake, but are hesitant to feel good about reaching a small goal? It's true! And sad. We are so quick to punish ourselves, yet so reluctant to celebrate.
Not anymore, honey. I'm calling BS.
2018 is now the year of small victories!
That's why you MUST know how important it is to celebrate them. We all encounter obstacles in life that can leave even the fiercest #GirlBoss feeling slightly defeated and unmotivated. Blah. I'm urging you not to let them block your view of all the wins you've accomplished so far, no matter how small!
I know it can feel silly applauding yourself when it doesn't feel like you've made a huge effort, but that's not why I want you to celebrate. I want you to celebrate because you are developing into the successful woman you aspire to be. I want you to celebrate because you're making a change and developing a new habit. I want you to celebrate every small victory until you learn to love the feeling of progress just as much as you love the idea of success!
Think about it friends, how can you fully appreciate achieving your goal if you don't appreciate the steps that got you there? If you don't appreciate how much you've progressed? Here's a clue: you can't.When you take the time to applaud yourself for your small victories, you're showing appreciation for your progress. For your struggle. So from here on out, I want you to celebrate each and every small victory. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.
From one #GirlBoss to another, please please do NOT wait until you've accomplished your goal to be proud of yourself. Give yourself some credit, girl. Yes, you're working towards a future goal, but I also want you to be present in the moment. I want you to celebrate what you've done in the moment. Bask in your glory, girl! YOU did that!
Let yourself get excited that you're one step closer to your goal! Now, allow that excitement to give you a renewed source of energy and USE IT to tackle the next task!
Giving your attention to the little victories is like reminding yourself that, "I CAN do this...I AM doing what I need to do...I WILL be successful." Trust me sis, you're going to need all of the confidence and motivation you can get from these small wins. This is only the beginning. I can guarantee you will face even bigger challenges in the future. When that day comes, you'll need a little positive reinforcement on your side!
To all my #GirlBosses out there, I am so proud of you for taking charge of your dreams! You've got a vision, and you're making it happen. I salute your greatness, both newly found and yet to be discovered.
Can I just say that I truly appreciate the flood of support and encouragement that I received during my hiatus from the blogging game. You guys are ah-mazing! All I can say is that I simply felt like I wasn't the best version of myself, and I had to take a step back and do some major self-analysis. While I was working so hard on myself, I felt like I was in no shape to be handing out advice.
Thankfully, I have put that behind me and I'm ready to get back on my grind! Thank you for understanding and bearing with me. It's a new year, and I'm so excited to continue on this journey with you guys!
Before we dive in, let's check out the quote of the day, shall we?
"You cannot climb the ladder of success dressed in the costume of failure" - Zip Ziglar
I want you to keep that quote in mind as you continue to read.
Have you ever heard the saying, "The clothes maketh the man?" Well in this case, the clothes maketh the woman."
If you weren't familiar with the saying before, allow me to be the one to introduce you. Take a moment to let it marinate. Really let it soak in. Are you re-evaluating the importance of your professional wear? You should be.
Now I want you to ask yourself what kind of woman you are. Are you ... quiet, plain and subtle? Or are you bold and power-hungry, demanding respect from everyone you encounter? Your clothes are an extension of you, what you're feeling, and what you represent.
While you're coming up with your answer, I'm going to let you in on my little secret. Ready? Here it is:
I do not believe in Casual Friday.
That's right people. You heard me. This concept does not exist in my mind. I cannot and will not support it.
As a matter of fact, I refuse to place those two words together in a sentence. I mean, really... Casual? Tuh. That word should not even be in our vocabulary ladies! Why? BecauseBoss Baes come to slay EVERY DAY. NO EXCUSES!!
Listen, I get it. Everyone is not a fashion stylist in the making. But I believe that putting in the full effort when it comes to your appearance at work will make a noticeable difference in how you feel throughout the day and how others will perceive you. If you want to be extraordinary, and I know you do because Boss Baes always go above and beyond, then you will need to make some sacrifices. Ditch that measly day of comfort for yet another opportunity to SLAY that office runway--I mean hallway!
I highly encourage you to go ahead and kiss the words "Casual Friday" goodbye. Ciao! Adios! We have no use for you.
Let some other Basic Betty own the casual look this week. You are going to SLAY if I have anything to say about it--and I do have quite a bit to say.
No ifs, ands, or buts.
Cause guess what? Everyone will dress up when it's required. Nobody (but you) will dress up when it's not. SN: I apply this rule to Business scenarios at school also. I drop the "casual" in Business casual altogether. Personally, I'm going all out every chance I get.
As a general rule of thumb, it's always the people who exceed requirements (without being asked) that are truly successful. As honorary Boss Baes, we never dress down. A Boss Bae knows that there is no telling who you might run into, so you must ALWAYS dress to impress. Stick with me, and impress you shall!
Friends, do me a favor and think about it like this: Casual Friday is the perfect opportunity to separate yourself from your co-workers and really make yourself stand out. Trust me, I have mastered the art of workplace fashion and people definitely notice! Plus you get tons of compliments. Friday is actually one of my favorite days to dress up for work for that very reason.
So if you're like me and you always have to be a little extra, this is your moment to shine honey. Have fun with it. Play with it! Dress it up and make it pretty. This is the day to try a new style or get a little funky. No matter what look you go for, you will always look better than the person who showed up in the same ole jeans. Always. This I believe this whole-heartedly.
I will leave you with this thought: There are not many things in the workplace that you have control over. Your tasks, your wages, your schedule. The few things you CAN control are how you present your personal brand and what your ensemble says about you. Don't you want to finish the week strong? End it with a bang sis! If necessary, save your cutest outfit for Friday and slay them alllll!
Good luck and thank you for joining me for our first post of 2018! Please feel free to reach out with feedback, comments, or questions. Remember to be on the lookout for next week's posts!
Happy #WorkingWomanWednesday to all of my Boss Baes!! Today is all about you, beauty!
For those of you who are joining us for the first time, I like to spend Wednesday's celebrating all of the smart, hardworking, and talented Boss Baes out there. I focus on the women who never stop working towards their goals and shaping their dreams. I want to shine a spotlight on what you ladies bring to the table--and it's much more than just a pretty face.
Our #WorkingWomanWednesday theme for this week is the power of femininity. Try to keep that phrase in the front of your mind as you move through the rest of your week!
If you haven't yet noticed, this entire blog is constructed around the idea of "powerful femininity." From the name, to the logo, to the topics I write about. I chose to use the word "Goddess" in the title because they represent that same balance of power and feminine energy that I strive for.
Did you know that in mythology, Goddesses are symbols of strength, power, and wisdom? Now that's what I'd call a triple threat. The fact that beauty & charm are part of the package is just the cherry on top! I want all of you to awaken YOUR inner goddess and let your feminine energy radiate!
The quote I've chosen to open with today does a good job of setting the tone. Let's take a look at these words from designer Meg Sharpe:
"Most of all...It is important to be feminine, but still powerful"
I chose this quote because the world we live in has a way of devaluing femininity. Unfortunately, that way of thinking is deeply embedded into our culture.
More often than not, our society demands that women display masculine characteristics in order to be taken seriously and gain respect. You know, the same respect that men are given freely. Anything below par, and you risk being labeled as "soft," "ineffective," or "weak." The message that I see constantly is that, in order to have any significant career goals, women have to adopt the traits that are associated with masculinity....
News flash: there are many defining characteristics that make up a good leader or boss, and gender is not one of them.
I'm telling you all of this to give you an idea of the gender role expectations in the work place. I don't want any of you to feel pressured to censor/alter your thoughts, behavior, or intuition while trying to appease a biased system.
Your femininity IS NOT a weakness and it is NOT an inconvenience, so don't let it be used as one. It is one of your greatest assets. Embrace it!
The way I see it, women are already one step ahead anyway. We are natural born "managers/leaders." From birth, society practically grooms us to be caretakers for spouses, children, and households, right? Managing a household requires some of the same skills, just on a different scale. Are you hearing me ladies?! Do you know what that means?! Taking care of others first is natural for us. Problem solving is natural. Establishing cooperation is natural. Sacrifice is natural. See where I'm going with this? These are all qualities of a good leader, so from what I can tell we're already sittin' pretty.
So what does using your femininity power look like?
Now that you are aware of this special power, let's talk about some ways that you can harness it and use it in your favor.
Build connections/relationships. Contrary to what some men would have you believe, you do not have to be an ass who bulldozes over everyone to command the room. As women, I think it's fair to say that we are generally good at bringing people together. Use that ability to create connections and allow your power be cooperative, not competitive.
Use your emotions. Let's shatter the taboo that there is no room for emotions in the work place once and for all. To close yourself off from emotional connectivity would be, in my opinion, putting yourself at a disadvantage. Listening to issues, empathizing with those around you, and sharing experiences can go a very long way.
Converse, don't debate. It is important to allow a civilized exchange of thoughts, feedback and ideas. The debate-style communication can create hostility that does not benefit anyone. Rather than shooting down an idea, ask questions to find out why it's important to them.
Use your natural instincts. Sometimes a woman's instinct to nurture can translate beautifully into the work place. This can mean focusing more on the process (and what it means to others) and less on the results or profits. A high level of openness can also do wonders for how your power is received.
These are just a few examples of how feminine characteristics might be used to your advantage at work. Can you think of any more? What about outside of work? Try brainstorming and see what ideas you come up with.
So, I have decided that it is fairly unrealistic for me to blog about my adventures daily while also focusing on my school work and enjoying the magical city that I am in. Instead, I'll probably stick to a weekly blog post, unless I just have something super exciting to share with you guys!
I almost don't know where to begin. I've done and seen so many amazing things this week! I guess i'll start with my favorite activity!
Disclaimer: I have always, always, ALWAYS, wanted to ride a Segway. It was on my list of things to do before I die. So when it was between touring the lovely Borghese Gardens in the traditional group setting, or riding through on a Segway, I'm sure you can guess which one I chose to do! IT WAS AMAZING. It was everything I thought it would be!!! I definitely made the right choice! Here's a picture of me, at the Gardens, on my chariot.
That, my friends, is a look of pure joy.
The next day, I went on a river cruise along the Tiber river. It was dreadfully hot, but still enjoyable! Each river port had little restaurants and shops as soon as you stepped off. It was cute and quaint! This part of the city was definitely quieter and more peaceful. I was able to have a good meal and do a little exploring afterwards.
This next location was probably one of my favorites due to its sheer beauty. Ladies and gentleman, I give you....the Fontana di Trevi!
Isn't it GORGEOUS?! I was in awe! Unfortunately, this is a super popular tourist attraction, and so it was like the Hunger Games trying to get close enough to take a picture. Apparently, this is THE spot. If you're ever in Rome, i recommend you make this trip during the week day, and NOT on the weekend, like I did. It should be a little less crowded.
Aaaaand, last but not least, here's a picture of myself in the streets of Rome! The architecture, doors, and iron work throughout the city are all so pretty. You don't see things like this in America. I couldn't help but to take a picture!
Yeah. I'm definitely in one of the most beautiful cities in the world.
Thanks for reading about my adventures this week! Don't forget to check back in a few days to see what else Rome/John Cabot University has to offer.
Arrivederci (see you later) friends! #TheCorporetteGoddess
This post is coming to you all the way from Rome, Italy! For those of you who don't know, Ciao means both hello and goodbye in Italian! Don't say I didn't teach you anything. Rest assured, the more I learn, the more you will, too.
Right now, it's 10 pm here so it should be about 3 something back in Sweet Home Alabama. Let me just say, the time change is really messing with me! 7 hours ahead?! I'm sleepy during the day, and wide awake at night.
Hopefully I will get myself together and back on track before classes start on Monday! I want to be fresh and alert so I can conquer my Italian Business class! But we will talk more about that later. First, i want to give you a brief little introduction to Italy!
So since I have a few days to kill before school officially starts, I have been forced to keep myself busy with some amazing sight-seeing and a helluva lot of shopping! Tragic, right?You can't study abroad and come home without a new wardrobe, can you? I think not.
On my first day in Rome, I went to the Roman Colosseum, which was hugely awesome! I'm not a huge history buff, but it was still pretty cool. It was built over three thousand years ago! The colosseum was home to gladiator and wild animal fights (yikes). Here's a picture that I took outside of the Colosseum:
isn't it gorgeous? Ugh! I just love seeing foreign architecture!
Next, I went to The Pantheon, a temple dedicated to the Roman Gods. It was BEAUTIFUL. High ceilings, gorgeous marble floors, huge stone columns. It was truly magnificent. The detailing in this building was extraordinary. I've never seen anything like it! Here's a picture of the outside of The Pantheon:
It's not as nice looking on the outside. But I promise, the inside was gorgeous! Let me be the first to tell you that the Romans were stunning architects, designers, and craftsmen. Simply stunning.
Aaaaaand, last but not least, here's a picture of me, in front of the fountain at The Pantheon!
I know, I know. Not the best quality picture. Bear with me! I actually brought a camera a long with me to properly document my travels, but it was too hot and I was walking too far to carry that big ole thing around.
So, I think that wraps-up Day 1! Thanks for reading about my first day in Roma! Please keep up with me as I take on the Italian Business world for the next couple months. I'd love to have you on this journey with me!
It's my absolute favorite day of the week! Happy #WorkingWomanWednesday to all of my Boss Baes and my Mogulettes! I appreciate you ladies! We are kicking butt and taking names! Go ahead, girl! Clap for your own damn self!
So, to commemorate today's #WorkingWomanWednesday, I want to share with you guys ten habits of successful women. You might want to ensure that you are doing most, if not all of the following. Ready? Here they are:
A successful woman...
Makes time for herself. She realizes that she can't care for others, without caring for herself.
Challenges herself. Comfort zone? What comfort zone?
Educates herself. She knows that you have to go above and beyond to really stand out.
Acknowledges her mistakes, and moves on. Self-awareness is the key here.
Knows the importance of living/eating/being healthy. And the importance of nourishing your body so that you perform at your optimal level.
Is financially savvy. She doesn't depend on any man to handle her finances. She's got this.
Knows her smile is her brand. It's the first thing people see. Make sure it's a great one and if you can't, fake it 'til you make it, baby.
Has a life outside of the work place. She knows the importance of having a balanced life, and having something to keep you centered.
Celebrates every win, both big and small. She recognizes that every little step is a step closer to her ideal self/goals/dreams.
Sets goals and creates methods for achieving them. Because she knows that goals, without a plan, are just intentions...
Nothing too hard, right? I know all of my Boss Bae's can handle it! Get out there and grab your success by the balls. I can promise you a man wouldn't even hesitate. He might not even have to earn it. You better go for it!!
Oh, and remember: We are nothing, if not focused and fabulous.
How are you guys on this dreary day? The rain has me wanting to do nothing but lay in bed all day. I'm sure I'm not the only one...
But we all know that there's no time for that. Right? Because it's a new day, meaning that there's a whole new set of goals to accomplish! What can YOU get done today? What's at the top of your weekly goal list? What ever steps you need to take to get you closer to your goals, TAKE THEM!! Even just an inch of progress/movement will get you closer to new heights. Don't underestimate the power of small day-to-day tasks in getting you to where you want to be!
Try not to get too caught up with perfection! Perfection is a myth... Like Santa Claus. Accept the fact that you will make mistakes! It's life. We're human. You will learn as you go, I promise. Instead, strive for PROGRESS.
Just. Keep. Moving. Towards. Your. Goals.
The only difference between who you are, and who you want to be, is what you're doing right now. Today, And every day after this one. You will get there step by step. Inch by inch.
Don't over think it. Trust the process. The fear will gradually fade away as you are taking action and getting more confident and comfortable, I promise.
Side Note: You don't have to have every single move figured out right now. I don't. I certainly don't expect anyone our age to. But you do need to keep moving towards some positive goal, mission, or purpose!
If you don't know where to start today, try looking at your goal list, and guestimating how much time you need for each task! This should help you break down and organize your tasks based on your schedule!
There is always SOMETHING you can be doing! Big or small!
So, as you guys may or may not know, last Monday was my first day in my new position as Marketing Fellow!! Can I just brag on my job for a minute? I LOVE it! Hands down! This job is a blessing! From the flexible hours, to the great staff/co-workers, to the work load, this job is heaven-sent!
Anyway, I was literally SO excited. Like, I swear I practiced my hallway strut in the parking deck before walking in. I had to be legit.
It was my first day and I literally had to dive right in. On that Thursday, we had our first Marketing event, (which was a HUGE success by the way!) so I already knew the first week was already going to be crazy and I was going to have to keep up and step up! We ended up staying late and event planning pretty much every day/night that week.
Come Thursday, I was running around like a mad woman and I was definitely feeling the pressure, but I didn't fold! Small victories.
This is my favorite part!If you didn't know, I live for dressing for the office. Every day is a fashion show when i walk in.
Okay, so picture this. For my "first day" outfit, I paired a black and gold Michael Kors Blazer with a black skirt, black and gold Michael Kors flats, and a black and gold Michael Kors purse.
It was cute. it was comfy. It was classy.
I looked and felt like a little Mogulette!!
Side Note: I know i like to say "hell in heels," but if it's your first day, then i highly recommend wearing flats until you get a lay of the land, and until you know exactly what it is you will be doing!
Here's a picture...yes, it is iphone 6 quality. Sorry guys! Photoshoot coming soon.
Working with my team:
I am so glad I work well with and enjoy my team! That can really make all of the difference in a work environment. We moved mountains to get that event together for Thursday! It was a team effort, for sure.
I'm still taking the time to figure every one out individually, but I think I've laid the foundation. They seem to all be genuinely smart, kind, and understanding. They don't make me feel dumb when i ask questions, which is sooo important. They also don't seem to be impatient or bothered by having to show me the ropes.
Hopefully every thing in the future will continue to run as smoothly as it has so far! I think I've proven myself a little bit after Thursday, which should make the transition smoother.
How did I do?
So it was definitely a little nerve wrecking, but all in all it was nothing too intense. The most challenging part to me is finding a balance between assertiveness and taking action, and falling in line/learning the ropes. I want to be independent, but i also need to know what I'm doing and how my boss wants it done.
When I got in there, my boss pretty much threw me in the deep end...which was to be expected. It was time for me to sink or swim...
I must have turned into Michael Phelps because by the end of my first day, my boss was already commenting on how quickly I had knocked out everything they had ready for me. Yassssssss! I try! Moguls/Mogulettes, positive feedback is what we want to hear!
Side Note: I always, always, always, ask for feedback! If I don't know how I'm doing, then I can't possibly get better. Ask for constructive criticisms, advice, feedback, anything that allows you to get better at what you are doing.
The Calm after the Storm:
Now that the craziness from the first week has passed, things should start to settle into a normal routine. My hours should become a little more regular, although my schedule is, as I mentioned, very flexible.
I can't wait to see where this journey takes me! I am so ready to keep learning and to keep doing what I love to do! I am just grateful that I have been given the opportunity to prove myself.
I am going to continue to blog about my journey as Marketing Fellow as it unfolds and as I learn more and do more!
Let's power up and talk about how you can bring your slAy game to work!
The well-rounded slay:
Side Note: Ladies, you should really strive for a well-rounded slay. You're probably reading this like, what does that even mean? A well-rounded slay is when you excel in meaningful facets of life, not just the average ones. Yes, your outfit is cute and your hair is laid, but do you slay at more than that?Do you have skills? A talent? Extraordinary work ethic? Energizing attitude?
Looking good is only a tiny part of my definition of "slay." When you learn something new and useful, you are slaying. When you put in more work/practice than others, you are slaying. When you expand on your plans and goals, you are slaying. Let's stop hyping up this shallow definition of the word "slay." I want you guys to REALLY slay!
How to bring your Slay game:
1. Bring your heart and soul to work. Be engaged and give it your all! Bosses notice! Plus it makes it more enjoyable. Even if your current position is not where you ultimately want to be, think of it as a stepping stone. There is something to be learned here, I promise. You won't get that raise or promotion by just doing the bare minimum, or even only just meeting the standards. Moguls and Mogulettes excel, we SLAY! That means going above and beyond in everything that you do! It also means having a positive, energizing and uplifting spirit and attitude! You want to add to and improve your work environment, not taint it.
2. Know that every area of your life affects another.Personally, I don't think it is possible to completely compartmentalize. Sometimes certain areas of your life blur together. It happens. The key is to know that it happens, and strive to keep it under control. Keeping up with goals and commitments outside of your work life is a great way to keep things neat. If you think that missing a deadline, or putting off a goal in your personal life won't carry over, think again. You start to get comfortable making excuses and missing marks. Which WILL carry over into work if you make a habit out of it! This goes for all aspects of life. Any time you go back on a commitment, you are eroding your will-power.
3. Have "the look." I said earlier that looks are only a small part of slaying, but they still matter. You need to look like you mean business and like you are someone who commands respect. Keep it classy and simple (unless you're like me, in which case you keep it classy, and flashy). I'm not saying that you need to run up a check on wardrobe. Especially if your job requires a lot of professional clothes. Don't sleep on the thrift/consignment stores! I always find designer blazers and cute suits there. Just wash them first, and no one will ever know the difference!
4. Always, always, always say what you mean and mean what you say. DO NOT,I repeat, DO NOT hype yourself or your skills up if you can't back them up. Please please please. This is more crucial than you think. It boils down to brand trust and misrepresentation. If they see that you cannot actually do something that you specifically said you could, then they will lose faith in your abilities/product/brand. Stick to what you know, and if you want to do more, then learn more.
Remember ladies, not only do we want our shoes to match our bags, but we want our actions to match our words!
Have you been afraid to take steps towards your goals? That's completely understandable. It can be intimidating, especially if you're unsure of where to start.
You might even have a cute vision board sitting in your house, reminding you of your dreams. That's awesome! You have already taken the first step! Guess what? A dream with a deadline becomes a goal. A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan. A plan backed by action becomes success.
So, let's work on talking through that fear so you can start tackling those goals!!
Understanding your fears: This requires some soul searching. If you're not prepared to find out what exactly scares you about your goals, then you won't be able to overcome it. More than likely, your fear is stemming from the feeling of being overwhelmed. Maybe you're looking at all of your big goals on your vision board, and you don't know how you can possibly get there.
If this is true for you, then it's safe to say that your mind knows that you have not yet laid the mental foundation needed to accomplish those goals! Mindset, people. It's all about your mind set!
I'm not saying your fears aren't valid. They are 100%! I'm just saying that your fears can't impede your dreams to the point that you don't take steps towards making them happen. Don't let them block you! You must take action!
Acknowledging your fears: Okay, this is what I want you to do next. Write down your fears. It could be the fear of failure, a fear of starting your own business, the fear of the unknown, or the future, of not making enough money to support your family, etc. Whatever you're worried about in that head of yours, write it down.
Now, circle your biggest fear. Really look at it and think about it. Then write down what would happen if that fear came true. For example, if your biggest fear is public speaking, then your worst case scenario might be jacking up a really important speech or presentation! What would you do if that happened?
Well, you will probably be very embarrassed, but you will look down at your note cards, and continue where you left off. You'll know next time to practice your speech a hundred more times.
What do I do with this new found knowledge? Knowledge is power baby.Use it to crush your fears. You've now thought out your worst case scenario surrounding your worst fear. Guess what? You survived. You were able to recover, and were okay. Embarrassed, but otherwise okay.
Was that worse than the reason you set the goal in the first place? Your "why." Does that fear outweigh all the possible benefits to come from chasing your dreams? Ummm, negative!
You have a pretty good idea of what could go wrong, and now you can plan for it (as best as you can plan for anything in this crazy game of life). You can lessen your chance for failure if you're better prepared!
So, the question is, what can you do to prepare for your fears?
Preparing for your fears: I'm going to keep using my example of public speaking. If I am well aware of my fear, I can take steps to lessen the chances of my worst-case scenario actually happening. What kind of steps? Well, maybe I will practice in front of my room mates/friends. Maybe I take a public speaking class. Maybe I find myself a speaking coach, or ask for tips from people whom I know articulate and speak well. The point is, there is ALWAYS something to do to prepare yourself!
Preparation will also ease your mind and give your confidence that needed boost. If something goes left? No sweat, you've got it covered. The point of this step is to knock out your fears and get the ball rolling!
Taking the first small step: Now that you've done a little soul searching and have identified and acknowledged your fears, you should identify the first small step to take. It's time. You're ready! There's no time like the present.
I really advise starting with a small step, that way you won't feel overwhelmed. Once you have completed that, identify the next small step to take. Do this over and over, and before you know it, you will have accomplished a ton!
After you have accomplished your first two steps, map your progress. Keep in mind how far you have come, so that you can see how you moved beyond your fear!
In the future... If you happen to develop a new fear, then go back to the first step, and repeat the process. You will conquer that one too! The most important thing is that you continue that momentum! Once you stop making progress, it's easy to become stalled. Keep pushing! Even if it's just one baby step at a time!
Excellence Challenge: Take a moment, RIGHT NOW, to write down five things you want to take action on (ignoring your fears). Not later, not next month, or next year, but NOW. What can you do to take action NOW? Oh yeah, write in all caps so it feels LEGIT.
Happy #MotivationMonday! This week, I want to talk to you guys about the difference between being busy and being productive so you can get the most out of your days, if you aren't already! The sooner you realize that your success depends on your ability to be productive, not busy, the better off you'll be. Which one are you?
The two are actually pretty different and can definitely impact your progress in different ways. Please beware: being busy can be a disadvantage. You end up thinking less and doing more.
Don't get me wrong, busy people are hard workers. That is obviously why they are so busy, because of their a strong work ethic. The problem is that working hard doesn't always mean working smart.
First, know that productivity is all about efficiency. Efficiency means doing things quickly and accurately. Knowing which steps are necessary, and which can be eliminated. For example, a hard worker might type an entire document to transfer it from text to document, where as a productive worker would use a text scanner to do the same thing in a fraction of the time. Yes, you got the job done, but did you do it in the best manner? Are you working as efficiently as possible? Ask yourself if you are doing things the best way possible.
This is so important, because you don't want to waste precious time, money, and energy on unnecessary things!
Similarly, productive people tend to look at the bigger picture, where as busy people get caught up in the day-to-day details. These are important, but you don't want to spend all of your time caught up on the small details. It is easy to get overly detail-oriented, without fixing on a true end goal. What I'm saying is, it doesn't matter if you pick A or B, what matters is that you actually get going!
Secondly, busy people try to do it all themselves, where as productive people find the best tools, resources or people who can help them. Again, you can't do it all. Stop trying and stressing yourself out! You will only end up weighing yourself down. There are sooooo many tools out there to advance you and your career. USE THEM! Ask someone for help or for ideas. Tap into some other resources to avoid draining your own.
Finally, busy people say yes to everything. They think that the more they have going on, the better off they will be. And it is true, that a lot of good comes from networking opportunities. However, productive people know that you have to say yes/no strategically. They seriously evaluate whether it would be a good investment of their time. If not, it's not happening. You can't or shouldn't do everything. Productive people aren't afraid to say no because they know that saying yes today means less time tomorrow! You have work that needs to be done!
Now that you know the difference between being productive and being busy, look at the last 6 months of your life. Have you been productive? Or just busy? If you've been busy, how can you start to make the most out of your days?
So I feel like I need to dedicate a post to respecting the hustle. Not your hustle. THE hustle.
We are ALL working! We are ALL trying to blow up! LET'S HELP EACH OTHER GET THERE!
So the following mini-rant is going to be super important for all my people selling a service, rather than a product!! One is a lot harder than the other, btw.
By service, I mean marketing, photography, advertising, modeling, styling, hair styling, etc. We don't create a product and sell it. We ADD TO, TRANSFORM, or EXPAND what you already have!! Because we aren't necessarily creators, artists or designers and because we don't always have a tangible product, there are going to be customers who won't want to pay you. People who don't like your prices. People who want to "pick your brain," aka talk for free! You don't need those people! They are NOT your customers and that's okay!
I just hate to see people sleep on the talents of others, just because they're behind the scenes. Have you ever heard the expression, "don't be the one mining for gold, be the one selling the miners tools to dig with?" Well, I pretty much live by that. Nine times out of ten, I can double if not Tripple 1)traffic and 2) profit and I'm a beast when working with a budget. With that being said...
PSA: I'M FRIENDLY, NOT FREE!
Don't get me wrong, anyone who knows me knows I LOVE to help everyone else succeed too! Seriously, I don't mind answering ya'lls questions! I encourage you guys to reach out to me! HOWEVER, at a certain point, I'm not just answering questions, I'm laying out your entire Business plan, projections, marketing strategies, etc.
I just want to point out that companies spend hundreds of thousands of dollars strategizing, market-analyzing, marketing and advertising every year. There are levels to this!!
I know that we are young and everybody can't do the same things, so I try my best to make it available to everyone! I am more than happy to send you in a certain direction, but please RESPECT MY TIME AND MY WORK. Be mindful of others' craft guys. They are putting in work just like you are.
Seriously, it got to the point recently where I had my lawyer draw up contracts for me. No contract, no work. Sorry, not sorry! Don't play with me, play with yo....
No but really. Just think about it! Would you ask a designer to make your outfit for free? No? Then why would we provide a service for little to nothing? WE ARE ALL TRYING TO GET IT. RESPECT MY HUSTLE LIKE I RESPECT YOURS...
So one of the goals of my blog is getting more of my young people into the professional world. It's time to play with the big boys (and gals)! But...
Disclaimer: You need to understand that some people don't like the idea of a young professional.
They will just be plain mean, and negative. Push through. It's not you, it's them and their whack mind set. Best way to respond? With grace, and politeness. Then you shine on 'em! Like, thanks for the motivation!
As a young professional, you're going to have to earn your respect and you're probably going to have to pull double your weight. You need to prove that you deserve to be there. I'm not going to lie to you, it is intimidating as hell. Especially when you're working with, not for, people twice your age with multiple degrees and extensive training.
Here are some mistakes to avoid when trying to establish yourself in the professional world at a young age:
Learning by example. Please, please don't try to do this. It will more than likely result in a failed imitation. Please know that there is no cookie-cutter style for doing business. It is so much about finding what works for you, and capitalizing on it. Don't try to copy the style of your boss, or your co-worker. What they do works for them! You would be so much better off by just finding your thing, and killing it. Your own way. I don't want you guys out here expecting success from replicating someone else's style. The moral of this story is that just because it works for them, does not automatically mean it's going to work for you!!!
Jumping straight in. What I mean by this is that you do not want to step on toes when you're just starting out. Be very mindful of this! If you're an over achiever like me, this may be something you struggle with. I love to jump in and volunteer to tackle any and everything. I have to remind myself of office dynamics. There's a difference between confident and cocky. You don't want to come across as the young person who thinks they know everything. You are there to work, but also to learn.Especially if you're going for a leadership position.Sit down, be humble... Make sure to assert that you are there to help in any way, so as to reinforce your value.
Failing to take initiative when need be. You should never assume that there will be step-by-step instructions on what to do or how to move. Danny Rubin of the Huffington Post says, "The days of a college syllabus are long gone. If you're waiting for someone to give you direction, have a seat. You'll be there a while." I love it. So true, Danny. A big part of business is improv and instinct. Inaction can really hurt your professionalism. This can be tough, but I'm here for you! Feel free to contact me with questions.
Failing to stand firm in your power. Here is where you will need your confidence. There may be situations in which your validity/credibility is questioned because of your age, gender or your race, or even all three (for my female African American young professionals). You should RESPECTFULLY stand by your opinions and ideas .You need to believe that you are supposed to be there. Signs of a lack of confidence will undermine the very standard you are trying to set at your age. Don't allow yourself to be walked over, but ALWAYS be polite!
Forgetting your thank-you and follow up emails. Moguls/Mogulettes, you should always, always, ALWAYS send a follow-up email after a business meeting, an interview, a collaboration, etc. (within 24 hours)! Thank them for their time or the opportunity. Gratefulness and good manners will ALWAYS be remembered. Trust me! This comes into play if you ever need a recommendation letter or reference. This is something that I always get commended for, because a lot of people skip this step.
Taking too long to respond. Communication is key.As a young professional, you're already seen as unreliable. It is the price we pay for our youth and glowing skin. You should always be swift when responding to emails, phone calls, and voicemails. I try my best to always respond to communication within 24 hours, time allowing. If you can't respond, turn on receipt confirmations so they at least know that you received their message. You have a responsibility to change their mind about young professionals!
Adulting is hard. Basically, you have to have a worldview that extends beyond yourself. Be very aware of yourself and those you work with. Follow these guidelines, and you shouldn't have a problem gaining respect in the work place! I really hope this helps!
Best of luck!
Yours Truly, #TheCorporetteGoddess
Excellence Challenge: Look at this as an opportunity for growth. If you have identified an area in which you're lacking in, take time to learn more about it. Do some research, expand you knowledge. Grow. Show up to work ready to glow!
I am literally ripping & running in these streets. Today's post is coming to you live from the University of Alabama. Are you all slaying your week so far? I know you are. Side Note: You guys are still keeping up with your weekly goal lists right?
Anyway, i wanna see you keep that momentum going from yesterday, and take another step towards your dreams today!
But wait! Before you take that step, I wanna get you (and your space) nice and prepped!
I have a few suggestions so that you can operate at your optimal Mogul/Mogulette level.
I call this little lesson, Prep N Prime: Preparing to Make a Move
Okay, like all my MUA's out there know, you wanna prep & prime your face before you do your make up right? I hope you said yes. Following that same logic, you wanna prep yourself and your work space before you try to make something shake in business/life.
Here are some tips for getting your mental prepped & environment primed & ready for action:
1) Stop. Take a minute to understand yourself. You absolutely have to be able to recognize your stressers, like exhaustion from poor sleeping habits, poor time management skills, etc. Where is your head at? Self-awareness is key to ANY kind of growth!! I keep emphasizing this because you would be surprised how many people are out of tune with themselves. Knowing where you stand now, so you can see how much you've grown later.
2) Learn from your stress. Remember the last mini-crisis you had? Or the last hard situation you faced? I hope so, because they make GREAT teachers! How could you have acted differently? What steps can you take to correct yourself? Did you have a back up plan ready? Like I've said in previous posts, it's really just a game of trial and error. Just be mindful of which errors you make, and ensure they don't happen again!
3) Have confidence in your decisions. Self-doubt might be one of the biggest obstacles out there. Im pretty sure you wouldn't sit around and talk down on yourself and your talents/skills. So why doubt yourself? WHO ELSE WILL HYPE YOU IF YOU DONT HYPE YOU. YOU BETTER STAND BEHIND YOUR DECISIONS. They are YOURS. Own them. Love them. Not to mention, indecisiveness is a huge waste of time. Go with your instinct, go with your gut, go with your psychic vision, WHATEVER.... just MAKE A DECISION. 4) Set your environment up for success. So if you know me, you probably know that I am veryyyy into feng sui. To the point where I organize my furniture accordingly, and have a money tree (Chinese symbol of wealth) next to my bed. I really encourage you guys to think about the space in which you are working. Is your space organized? Is energy free-flowing? Are the colors soothing, so as to reduce stress? Think about it! The little things matter.
5) Leave time for the unexpected. No matter what your goal is, or what work you are doing. You should always be prepared for any unexpected outcomes. ALWAYS. This is so important!! Things rarely go perfectly well the first time. Be ready. Flexibility and adaptability are key characteristics of a successful person. You have to be able to go with the flow. So give yourself enough time to ADJUST to that new flow!
6) Choose your friends wisely. THIS RIGHT HERE. ONE MORE TIME FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! I recently had to find this out the hard way, after launching my blog. Not everyone is going to support the steps you're taking to reach your goals. Please peep that negativity. Those slick lil comments. Those compliment/insults they like to throw out to diss you to your face. PEEP THEM, & eliminate the source of the negativity. If they're not offering you support, then walk away. Only then can you truly flourish.
So, now you guys are mentally prepped & primed and ready to take action on this lovely Tuesday! I hope I was able to share some wisdom that will be useful when planning your next action.
Good afternoon to all of my Moguls/Mogulettes, and happy Mon-Slay!
This is your weekly #MondayMotivation reminding you that you are going to Slay (with a capital S) this week! You too are a bad-ass. Do what you do best! YOU are absolutely capable of ANYTHING that you're willing to work for! I want everyone to go the extra mile today! Let's start this week off strong and get things rolling!
Okay so, I know people usually don't love the vibe on Mondays. I get it, trust me. Stay with me!
Today, (and every day really) I want you guys to think of yourselves as sharks. Not the giant man-eating kind, but another breed of business bad-ass (think 'Shark Tank').The biggest fish in the sea. Basically, anyone who dominates in his/her field/work/goals.
Now, think about the following questions carefully for me.
Do sharks complain about it being Monday? If you're unsure, let me help you out. No, in fact they do not. They see Monday as the start to a new week, filled with new goals. The chance to set the tone for the entire week.
Okay, they don't complain. What do they do then? No need to get snippy,I'm getting there I promise! Sharks get up early. Sharks start getting sh*t done before anyone else has even thought about doing it.
Tell me more.... I could go on for days! Sharks are scary as hell. They get results. There is a reason they are great at what they do. I've got news for ya'll, there are very few people who are born great. Very few. If you are one of those people, then I salute you. I, however, am not. I have to actively work on both myself and my goals/greatness. You might not be the biggest fish in the sea just yet, but you'll get there.
Most importantly... I want you to remember this one when you're facing an intimidating situation in life, or at work. The most important things sharks do, is remind every thing and everyone around them that they are freaking SHARKS! Even if that means taking a bite out of something. It really is all about your mind set and the confidence you have in the way that you handle your business. Make your presence KNOWN, so there's no way it can be denied or refuted.